In the land of Here and Now, every second is another opportunity to re-solve anything and course correct yourself back to a state of joy.
I truly believe that's the point of living. To find joy. To aim for peace. To redirect your energy back to bliss. I'd love to think that we can maintain a state of joy, but even in my most idealistic-unicorn-laced moments I think joy is nothing more than an option that you must choose time and time again.
Why? Because you're human.
It's impossible for all humans to be the same page Here and Now. At any given moment, there are as many people embracing joy as there are people dismissing it. Nature demands balance. Luckily, you can demand joy. You can demand to see the bright side of everything. You just can't demand it of anyone other than yourself. You also can't demand to be shown it by someone else, although someone else may unknowingly show it to you. You still need to be willing to see it.
The bright side is only visible through your own lens.
Your quest for joy, your ability to re-solve the mystery of every moment, is a personal choice. It's the choice not to abandon yourself in the tornado-like drama of others; it's the choice to anchor into your deeply-treasured knowledge and beliefs; it's the choice to align with the promise of joy when you can't really see the path that will lead you to it.
It requires you to have an honest conversation with yourself that starts with one very simple question: am I happy right now? In my experience, if you need to ask that question then the answer is most likely: NO.
It's a hard question, but it's also a baseline for living a good life.
You're not here to live a life that's not happy. You're here to remember that you have the power to will yourself toward bliss, step by step, moment by moment.
I feel as though I spent the better part of 2017 re-membering the aspects of my own nature that move me to and within the state of joy I'm writing about. It's a quiet, peaceful, powerful place. Getting there, to this place, time and time again, is as easy or difficult as I allow it to be.
It seems funny to me that I could ever allow it to be difficult at all, but I can and I do. I, like everyone else on the planet, am affected by outside influences—beliefs and values of communities both real and virtual, small and large—that rarely reflect the whole of who I AM. The difficulty is when I allow said influences to embrace my ego and knead my brain into a knot. The difficulty is when I try to figure out where I belong instead of realizing that I belong in my happy place(s).
You do, too.
You always belong in your happy place(s). The other place(s), not so much. My advice? Get out of them before you allow yourself to believe that they are as good as it will ever get. Aiming for anything less than extraordinary goodness is a disservice to your soul.
If you're asking the question am I happy and answering, no, DON'T FREAK OUT. Embracing your answer is the very first step. It is always a very good thing to embrace the truth of you. From this place you can dig a little:
- What is making me unhappy right now?
- Is there a way that I can change my view, position, path?
- What would that entail?
- What would make me feel happy right now?
Sometimes, the most important thing that you can do is lean into something that would make you feel happy. This doesn't necessarily mean it is THE solution, not at all, it is actually the reminder.
Often when you are in a situation that is making you unhappy for an extended period of time you actually forget what it feels like to be joyful. So this thing that might make you feel happy (i.e. dancing like a madwoman, watching a comedy, calling your favorite human, scheduling a massage, planning a vacation, singing out loud, whatever) that thing will remind you that all is not lost, happy is within reach. It is always within reach.
Do you feel like reaching for it? Take a little #peacequest with me. This is a free e-journey designed to ease your mind, release some baggage and clarify your inner state of ahhhhh. All of which clears the way to a more joy, step by step.
Can I hear a yes?