Healing

Course Correction To Joy

In the land of Here and Now, every second is another opportunity to re-solve anything and course correct yourself back to a state of joy. 

I truly believe that's the point of living. To find joy. To aim for peace. To redirect your energy back to bliss. I'd love to think that we can maintain a state of joy, but even in my most idealistic-unicorn-laced moments I think joy is nothing more than an option that you must choose time and time again. 

Why? Because you're human. 

It's impossible for all humans to be the same page Here and Now. At any given moment, there are as many people embracing joy as there are people dismissing it. Nature demands balance. Luckily, you can demand joy. You can demand to see the bright side of everything. You just can't demand it of anyone other than yourself. You also can't demand to be shown it by someone else, although someone else may unknowingly show it to you. You still need to be willing to see it. 

The bright side is only visible through your own lens. 

Your quest for joy, your ability to re-solve the mystery of every moment, is a personal choice. It's the choice not to abandon yourself in the tornado-like drama of others; it's the choice to anchor into your deeply-treasured knowledge and beliefs; it's the choice to align with the promise of joy when you can't really see the path that will lead you to it. 

It requires you to have an honest conversation with yourself that starts with one very simple question: am I happy right now? In my experience, if you need to ask that question then the answer is most likely: NO.

It's a hard question, but it's also a baseline for living a good life. 

You're not here to live a life that's not happy. You're here to remember that you have the power to will yourself toward bliss, step by step, moment by moment. 

I feel as though I spent the better part of 2017 re-membering the aspects of my own nature that move me to and within the state of joy I'm writing about. It's a quiet, peaceful, powerful place. Getting there, to this place, time and time again, is as easy or difficult as I allow it to be.

It seems funny to me that I could ever allow it to be difficult at all, but I can and I do. I, like everyone else on the planet, am affected by outside influences—beliefs and values of communities both real and virtual, small and large—that rarely reflect the whole of who I AM. The difficulty is when I allow said influences to embrace my ego and knead my brain into a knot. The difficulty is when I try to figure out where I belong instead of realizing that I belong in my happy place(s). 

You do, too.

You always belong in your happy place(s). The other place(s), not so much. My advice? Get out of them before you allow yourself to believe that they are as good as it will ever get. Aiming for anything less than extraordinary goodness is a disservice to your soul. 

If you're asking the question am I happy and answering, no, DON'T FREAK OUT. Embracing your answer is the very first step. It is always a very good thing to embrace the truth of you. From this place you can dig a little: 

  • What is making me unhappy right now? 
  • Is there a way that I can change my view, position, path? 
  • What would that entail? 
  • What would make me feel happy right now? 

Sometimes, the most important thing that you can do is lean into something that would make you feel happy. This doesn't necessarily mean it is THE solution, not at all, it is actually the reminder.

Often when you are in a situation that is making you unhappy for an extended period of time you actually forget what it feels like to be joyful. So this thing that might make you feel happy (i.e. dancing like a madwoman, watching a comedy, calling your favorite human, scheduling a massage, planning a vacation, singing out loud, whatever) that thing will remind you that all is not lost, happy is within reach. It is always within reach. 

Do you feel like reaching for it? Take a little #peacequest with me. This is a free e-journey designed to ease your mind, release some baggage and clarify your inner state of ahhhhh. All of which clears the way to a more joy, step by step. 

Can I hear a yes? 

Let's feel better, shall we?

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I've been feeling at a total loss amidst the swirl of toxic energy in the air here in the US.

Yesterday I shared a post on The Book Of Faces that my friend, Ben, shared because it made me laugh. It was about D (I can't even type his name). But every time I logged onto facebook and saw that on my wall my body tensed up. My shoulders shrunk in, an involuntary reflex to protect my heart. When I finally realized that I was having that reaction, I removed the post.

And guess what? I immediately felt better. Immediately. My whole body softened. This is the power of energy. Positive energy makes you feel good. Negative energy makes you feel bad. It is that simple.

I know, if only the world were that simple, but it's not because there are a lot of people in THE WORLD.

Your world, though? Now that's another story.

Here's the thing: I don't give a flying fuck who you're voting for. I really don't.

I DO give a flying fuck that you may or may not feel in alignment with your very own world (commonly referred to as your self), with your deeply rooted beliefs, your source of love, your spring of joy. I'm concerned that your body might feel out of whack by all of the negative energy swirling around you, regardless of who you are supporting.

I believe that, collectively, the only common ground we're standing on right now is that we are all stressed, we are all enraged, we are all feeling some form of pain because that's what this election is really all about—it's about facing what we don't want to face, feeling what we don't want to feel and changing all of the things that are not currently working for humanity. That's a tall order.

Where to begin.

You must begin with your own humanity, with you. You must look deep within and embrace the full truth of who you are in the present moment. Right now. 

So I'm thinking—how can you do this? How can you come back into your own sense of alignment and rootedness? 

How can you make sure that you are operating from a place that feels whole and right FOR you—not for the country, not for your town, not your street, apartment building, office or home. NOT even for your family, believe it or not. BUT FOR YOU.

WHAT FEELS RIGHT FOR YOU. When you are seated in the center of your heart, what feels right for you? When you are outside, breathing fresh air, looking up at the sky, what feels right for you? When you look in the mirror and see behind your eyes, what feels right for you?

I am going to take a guess: love feels right for you.

When I am plugged into love, everything feels right for me. When I am plugged into hate I ache—mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually. I ache. Luckily, there is an easy fix. And that fix is to love more.

Now, you might be thinking, "That's not really easy. I feel bombarded by the dialogue. I don't know how to disconnect from this."

And you're right. That is difficult. But I think I have something for you to try. It's easy. It will only take a second. You can do it in your head or heart or both, or you can actually do it out loud. I think it can change not just your world, but alsoTHE WORLD.

Here it is: every time you see a hateful message about anything, said by anyone, tell someone how much you love them (that someone can also be you). Every time. Oh, you're going to be busy, no doubt. More importantly, you're going to feel better immediately. And that feeling better thingy? Well, that's contagious, too. 

Try this for one day. Please report back here in the comments or on social media using the hashtag #loveyou.


Free Reiki Tuesday on July 12

I've been offering free distance Reiki once a month for the past several months. I do this believing that we all need a little boost, here and there. And, you know, it never hurts to hug someone, right? Last month, more than 80 people added their name to the list and reaped the benefits of this sure and steady flow of love. 

So join me, if you need a boost, want a hug or are in some serious need of this powerful and potent sacred stream of light. 

If you'd like to sign up or learn more, please do so here.  I hope to see your name on the list. 

Broken is beautiful

There is nothing wrong with being broken.

It happens.

People break. 

Their bones break. Their hearts break. Their minds break. Their connection to God/Source/All That Is...breaks. They feel the physical, emotional, mental, spiritual pain of fracture and disconnection. 

It happens. For real. 

And we need to stop saying that it doesn't or it can't. Because it does and it can and, sadly, it will. It's one of life's few guarantees. Feeling broken is intricately connected with feeling alive. At any given moment you can feel one way or the other.

Often, feeling broken is the very thing that amplifies your ability to embrace life with compassion and understanding for yourself and others. Any therapist or coach or counselor who tells you that you're not broken, or you shouldn't feel broken, is belittling your experience and, quite frankly, delaying your ability to truly heal whatever is begging to be healed once and for all. 

This is my number one beef with the entire self-help industry—not meeting you where you're at when that place is anything less than blissful. 

Has anyone ever told you that you're not whole? Or that the joy you're feeling isn't real? 

Of course not, that would be ridiculous. 

Equally ridiculous: not acknowledging this deep-rooted, less than pleasant feeling and state of being and worse, pretending it's not possible. 

It's your brokenness that makes you beautiful, sweet heart—wholly real, wholly alive, wholly human. 

It's the place where you are forced to get quiet and look within and decide what does and does not matter for you individually so that when you're ready to rejoin the collective you are stronger and surer of who you are and what you will and will not stand for. 

It's important, this feeling of broken, because it is a source of undeniable power rising.

Maybe that's why so many people want to say it simply doesn't exist. If you remember anything from this post, remember this: the next time you're feeling broken and someone tells you that you're not, run. Run toward the people who are willing to allow you to feel what's real for you. Those are the people who are capable of letting you be with your brokenness, of supporting you through your discovery of how you can and will heal. Those are the people who can actually help you mend bit by bit because they're strong enough to help you in the midst of the most uncomfortable human condition possible. Mainly, because they live to tell the story themselves. 

If there's one thing I know about being broken it's that it's the place where you'll find all the ways that your love will heal you. The trick is giving yourself the permission to recognize your own fragility. To say yes to it all. And, when you're ready, to start picking your pieces back up. 

Oh, it may take weeks, months and (in some cases) years to realize it, but being broken and feeling broken is the very thing that helps you understand what will make you be and feel whole again. 

You are such a beautiful love story, even (and especially) when you're on the mend. 


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