There is nothing wrong with being broken.
Their bones break. Their hearts break. Their minds break. Their connection to God/Source/All That Is...breaks. They feel the physical, emotional, mental, spiritual pain of fracture and disconnection.
It happens. For real.
And we need to stop saying that it doesn't or it can't. Because it does and it can and, sadly, it will. It's one of life's few guarantees. Feeling broken is intricately connected with feeling alive. At any given moment you can feel one way or the other.
Often, feeling broken is the very thing that amplifies your ability to embrace life with compassion and understanding for yourself and others. Any therapist or coach or counselor who tells you that you're not broken, or you shouldn't feel broken, is belittling your experience and, quite frankly, delaying your ability to truly heal whatever is begging to be healed once and for all.
This is my number one beef with the entire self-help industry—not meeting you where you're at when that place is anything less than blissful.
Has anyone ever told you that you're not whole? Or that the joy you're feeling isn't real?
Of course not, that would be ridiculous.
Equally ridiculous: not acknowledging this deep-rooted, less than pleasant feeling and state of being and worse, pretending it's not possible.
It's your brokenness that makes you beautiful, sweet heart—wholly real, wholly alive, wholly human.
It's the place where you are forced to get quiet and look within and decide what does and does not matter for you individually so that when you're ready to rejoin the collective you are stronger and surer of who you are and what you will and will not stand for.
It's important, this feeling of broken, because it is a source of undeniable power rising.
Maybe that's why so many people want to say it simply doesn't exist. If you remember anything from this post, remember this: the next time you're feeling broken and someone tells you that you're not, run. Run toward the people who are willing to allow you to feel what's real for you. Those are the people who are capable of letting you be with your brokenness, of supporting you through your discovery of how you can and will heal. Those are the people who can actually help you mend bit by bit because they're strong enough to help you in the midst of the most uncomfortable human condition possible. Mainly, because they live to tell the story themselves.
If there's one thing I know about being broken it's that it's the place where you'll find all the ways that your love will heal you. The trick is giving yourself the permission to recognize your own fragility. To say yes to it all. And, when you're ready, to start picking your pieces back up.
Oh, it may take weeks, months and (in some cases) years to realize it, but being broken and feeling broken is the very thing that helps you understand what will make you be and feel whole again.
You are such a beautiful love story, even (and especially) when you're on the mend.
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